Written by Nathan C. Bell
There is a scripture verse that cuts through the surface chatter. Consider 1 Corinthians 2:14, which reads: “The person without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God but considers them foolishness, and cannot understand them because they are discerned only through the Spirit.”
My thought: The teachings of the “Spirit” are confounding because they always point towards, depend upon and exhort movement that only makes sense if, in fact, Jesus Christ has risen from the dead. All Scripture and Spiritual movement is gospel centered, which means it is pointing toward, reflecting upon and abiding with the risen Jesus.
Marriage is an illustrative case in point. Consider these two conflicting realities:
- The Bible explains that marriage, on the one hand, merges two people’s lives into “one” fuller, larger union. Husband and wife exchange an exclusive life-for-a-life vow. Their marital vows grant each other both unmatched importance and influence in the other’s life.
- On the other hand, the Bible also teaches in numerous places that all people are “fallen” and even “rotten” to the core. Consider Romans 3:12: “All have turned away, they have together become worthless; there is no one who does good, not even one.”
The Conflict & Quandary
Can you see the conflict and the quandary these two truths present?
The Spirit of God invites husband and wife to build a shared foundation with the other by becoming “one” union. Yet over time, and as is taught in the very same Bible, it becomes clear that spouses inevitably fail each other, all too often in the most egregious ways.
It can be tempting to ask: “What sense is there in marrying a person whom in one way or another, as we are told from God in His word, will fail me?”
The secular thinking of “the world” that does not have “the Spirit” is increasingly answering this question with a flat: “None.” They are saying more and more, “Marriage does not make sense.”
Sadly the church is often confused about this too. Statistics clearly show that both in and outside the church, fewer and fewer folks are marrying one another. Further, those that do marry are becoming exasperated and giving up on their life-long covenant vows, choosing to divorce.
This is because marriage, as in an unconditional vow to love another till death, does not make sense to do with a fallen person unless… Jesus Christ is who He says He is and proved it by actually exiting the tomb alive after being placed in it dead. Everything rides on this pivotal key event in history.
The Resurrection of Jesus
The resurrection of Jesus proves that He was and is who He says He was and is. It demonstrates that His word and teachings are reliable and true. It proves that there is life after death. He said that He is strong in weakness (2 Cor 12:9-11). He taught that He brings life to those that die for Him (Mt 10:39). He, therefore, is the center and core of all hope, most especially in the marriage relationship.
There is hope for the married person who has been shortchanged. There is hope for the one who made the “marriage deal”, a life for a life and ended up with death (which is synonymous with loss). The hope is in Jesus who is the companion, the lover, the affirmer, the leader, and the intimate, perfect spouse who shines in the midst of the other’s weakness.
Jesus is the perfect mediator. This is true not just for the relationship between mankind and the Father. He is also the mediator between husband and wife.
So, Why Get Married?
Why make another person so important and influential? Why do this especially with full knowledge that they will fail you? Why persevere when the other does not seem to care or be invested in loving you well? There is one reason and one reason alone:
Because Jesus promised to make all things worth it (Rom 8:28).