Written by: Nathan Bell
You probably think you know your spouse pretty well.
After all, you do live together… and have lots of opportunities to talk, and do things together, and observe your life partner.
But the truth is, most people don’t know their spouses as well as they think.
And the holes that exist in their knowledge of one another can lead to some unnecessary dissatisfaction with the marriage — for both partners.
In light of this, here’s a practice I recommend for all married couples…
Spend some time together at least twice a week asking your spouse what challenges he or she is facing… as well as what he or she is finding that’s exciting or encouraging.
When your spouse replies, work hard at listenening, understanding and caring.
Be sure and ask questions for clarity, too… to make sure you understand what’s being said.
Then, switch places… and you take some time to relate what you’re finding to be challenging and encouraging in your life.
After you both have a shared understanding, lift each other up before the Lord in prayer.
This simple practice can work wonders to increase the level of intimacy in your marriage.
But this shouldn’t be surprising… because the Bible equates intimacy with ‘knowing and being known.’
So, make a point to discuss the challenges and encouragements you and your spouse are facing on a regular basis… in person, eye to eye… and pray about them.
As you do, you are sure to find the satisfaction you have with your marriage increase.
Be on your guard though…
Because this practice is so effective at increasing intimacy and marital satisfaction, the world, the flesh and the devil will all conspire to disrupt your exchanges with conflict or detachment.
So watch out for these obstacles.
For your best marriage,